Another Chapter in the Melodrama
I just received a call from my daughter to inform me I'm going to be a great grandmother. My granddaughter and her asshole choice for a husband to be took my grandson and his friend with them to Astoria. While on the way Jasmin got sick and Leif and she began talking and she shushed him. James picked up on it and when they got home, James immediately went to his mother's room to talk to her. Since she works graveyard shift, she sleeps days, so James had to awaken her with "I think Jasmin is pregnant, mom."
Robin called Leif and Jasmin into her room and confronted them both. Jasmin replied "Yes, she tested positive on a home pregnancy test."
About this time Leif and Jasmin were told they better tell Tim within 4 hours or Robin was going to tell him, and it wouldn't be a pretty experience for either of them.
Leif took Tim for a drive to tell him and returned when Tim told him he had heard enough; that if he didn't get back home Leif wouldn't be able to drive home.
Upon return to the house, as Leif stepped into the house James was waiting for him and began punching him about the head and shoulders. Tim was still up at his Jeep suffering as only a loving father can when he's told his baby girl is now pregnant and not even out of high school. All the dreams for her future has come shattering around him. He needed time alone. He heard the uproar and came down to find Leif on his knees backed into a corner between Jasmin's room and James' room. Tim grabbed James and shoved him into his room and wouldn't allow him out until he calmed down.
Robin went into James and hugged him, telling him it was a good thing Tim got there first, because she didn't know if she would have been strong enough to pull James away, or if she would have even bothered trying. Mainly because she wants to beat Leif up herself.
She said she turned to Leif and said, "What did you expect to have happen? This is a tight knit family of Irish, Scotch and Indian. Did you honestly think we'd just say, oh well? You've stolen my girls future. Your pious bullshit with the promise rings of purity. Lies and sneaky backhanded bullshit. How could we react any other way. James is too much like the Myers side of the family. Straight forward and in your face. You dirtied our whole family, because grandma and I both stuck up for Jasmin when Aunt Jackii said she thought Jasmin was pregnant when she heard Jasmin had been sick so long. All because you two couldn't control yourselves."
So now Leif is sporting a nice purple puffy eye that he can explain at work.
I just wonder how long he will stick around now.
Robin and Tim asked me what I thought and all I can say is, "Other than wanting to rip her head off for being stupid, I love her anyway."
Tim says because he's not able to work right now, (his hand is still healing from the surgery), that he will baby-sit the baby to make sure Jasmin graduates and gets her diploma.
She turns 17 this November and should be a Sr next year and will turn 18 before she graduates. I told Robin it sounded good but she can do whatever she wants now and they can't do a thing about it.
This is a good example of what happens to a young girl that is molested by an older man. She nearly ran away from home when another older guy conned his way into the trust of this family and told everyone he was just 19 when we discovered he was 23 and she was only 15. He had her so messed up she gave up on herself and had to spend time in therapy. We thought it helped but apparently it didn't, because she went right back out to another older guy; the only difference with this one is he was English instead of Laotian and made good wages instead of living off his parents.
I really don't know what to think right now other than. James was being a brother and he wanted to hurt Leif bad, but killing Leif would have ruined both of the kids lives and put a lot bigger cloud over the family than a young woman having a baby will. We can't always control the what's and whys, but we can control how we react to them.
My Mother, God rest her, always said, "Love bends, it won't break; it stretches farther than you'll ever know. It's our job to let it."
Robin called Leif and Jasmin into her room and confronted them both. Jasmin replied "Yes, she tested positive on a home pregnancy test."
About this time Leif and Jasmin were told they better tell Tim within 4 hours or Robin was going to tell him, and it wouldn't be a pretty experience for either of them.
Leif took Tim for a drive to tell him and returned when Tim told him he had heard enough; that if he didn't get back home Leif wouldn't be able to drive home.
Upon return to the house, as Leif stepped into the house James was waiting for him and began punching him about the head and shoulders. Tim was still up at his Jeep suffering as only a loving father can when he's told his baby girl is now pregnant and not even out of high school. All the dreams for her future has come shattering around him. He needed time alone. He heard the uproar and came down to find Leif on his knees backed into a corner between Jasmin's room and James' room. Tim grabbed James and shoved him into his room and wouldn't allow him out until he calmed down.
Robin went into James and hugged him, telling him it was a good thing Tim got there first, because she didn't know if she would have been strong enough to pull James away, or if she would have even bothered trying. Mainly because she wants to beat Leif up herself.
She said she turned to Leif and said, "What did you expect to have happen? This is a tight knit family of Irish, Scotch and Indian. Did you honestly think we'd just say, oh well? You've stolen my girls future. Your pious bullshit with the promise rings of purity. Lies and sneaky backhanded bullshit. How could we react any other way. James is too much like the Myers side of the family. Straight forward and in your face. You dirtied our whole family, because grandma and I both stuck up for Jasmin when Aunt Jackii said she thought Jasmin was pregnant when she heard Jasmin had been sick so long. All because you two couldn't control yourselves."
So now Leif is sporting a nice purple puffy eye that he can explain at work.
I just wonder how long he will stick around now.
Robin and Tim asked me what I thought and all I can say is, "Other than wanting to rip her head off for being stupid, I love her anyway."
Tim says because he's not able to work right now, (his hand is still healing from the surgery), that he will baby-sit the baby to make sure Jasmin graduates and gets her diploma.
She turns 17 this November and should be a Sr next year and will turn 18 before she graduates. I told Robin it sounded good but she can do whatever she wants now and they can't do a thing about it.
This is a good example of what happens to a young girl that is molested by an older man. She nearly ran away from home when another older guy conned his way into the trust of this family and told everyone he was just 19 when we discovered he was 23 and she was only 15. He had her so messed up she gave up on herself and had to spend time in therapy. We thought it helped but apparently it didn't, because she went right back out to another older guy; the only difference with this one is he was English instead of Laotian and made good wages instead of living off his parents.
I really don't know what to think right now other than. James was being a brother and he wanted to hurt Leif bad, but killing Leif would have ruined both of the kids lives and put a lot bigger cloud over the family than a young woman having a baby will. We can't always control the what's and whys, but we can control how we react to them.
My Mother, God rest her, always said, "Love bends, it won't break; it stretches farther than you'll ever know. It's our job to let it."
posted by Jan myrz @ 11:15 AM
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